Pull the glove box compartment out, which is really incredibly easy to do, and you'll have access to the ABS ECU unit. Pull the large plug from the abs ecu, and be done with your ABS troubles. If you don't want to see the light, I believe you can just pull the ABS relay, but you can also just pull the bulb from the dash.
Most likely you're getting the ABS light because of a bad sensor, or the sensor is knock out of place. Although, of course it could be more than that, but it's been more so one of the ABS sensors. I eventually did away with ABS, and was happy to do so. It was so unpredictable.
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BTW, big plug I'm referring to is #5 on your second diagram.